would you date him?

so let's just say i am dating " mr Gatsby "...  So far for the 1mth ish... he's been fun, exciting and wonderful but I still have my doubts and i need your advise???? my question for you is- WOULD U DATE HIM??

Heres's "mr gatsby" bio: He's chasing the American dream, works really really hard, travels for work 3 times out of a month and i see him only on the weekends. ( which i am totally OK with and in fact works best with my current schedule ) Mr Gatsby also treats me well when we are together, he is very accommodating, he listens, he calls me gorgeous, gives me kisses when i want it and most importantly we have unbelievable chemistry. WE can talk for hours about life, friends and anything silly... AND My friends adore him and thinks he's quality.  He's also handsome,successful and charismatic  and a really Good guy...  I like him. But what i like most about him is the way he makes me feel when i am with him... excited, happy and safe.

But here's the downfall of "mr gatsby", he's not very communicative during the work week. ( what that means is, i feel a disconnect when i don't hear from him ) Now lets just say we would make plans to get together on a friday, AND I would only hear from him the day of. Yeah i know hes busy, HELLO, we both are!! And he's telling me he's 100% committed to his job, but how hard is it to text or call to say hello during the 24 hours of a very long day... am i asking for too much? i personally don't think so. Having dated a myriad type of men, oober successful, emotional unavailable, marriage material... my thoughts are, its just not that hard to send a message saying hello unless you are playing games, or he's just not that into me.

Considering its still pretty young into the "relationship", these are important components of every relationship or friendships right?.?  I feel pretty good about him, and i enjoy our autonomy on all other departments, but there are always red flags to look out for right?  When it comes to what I need, i don't think i should compromise... Right now I want to protect me myself and i, and its important that I am not being careless about my feelings. i know his potential and being aware of his shortcomings of not communicating when i am not with him doesn't make it right. AND am i putting myself at risk by still continuing to see him? what do you think? would u date him?

 

Comments

[T]

I would MUCH rather date someone with that one problem that can be worked on with some communication versus having to deal with someone that wasn't emotionally there...treated me poorly....didn't listen...ect ect. Those are all problems that would take years of inner workings for them to work on vs. just being more aware during the work week to show me some attention. I'd date him! :)

[Ben]

I would not waste my time with him. Guys make time for you, especially you. Too many fishes in the sea.

[john]

define successful? I know u can't be that into him, tittle being " would you date him"! he doesn't know how lucky he is.

[mary diesch]

Without a doubt. It hasn't been that long, so be patient with him. Besides, what good looking, successful (and drunk) man can successfully make an argument for why William Faulkner is not the greatest American author

[amj]

tough one... sounds like a strapping gentleman, but yea, how successful to you mean? Unless the guy drives an M3, i would ditch him!

[Will]

Well here is the deal. In the first month of a relationship guys are a little freaked out anyways, so lets get that out of the way. That can excuse some of his actions... But if I was dating a girl, and she didn't show any intrest in me other than the day of, I would be like sweet, I'm gonna get laid tonight... with no strings attached. So my dear if you want to be that girl then continue to date this man, but I think I know you better, you deserve better, so screw that s%&# and lets go get drunk and find you a real man!!!!