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would you date Yourself...?

Is it just me or does anybody else ask themselves if you would make a good partner, boyfriend/girlfriend and a step further - a worthy wife/husband?  I thought long and hard about this today (one of my improvement sessions)  If I was an attractive, nice guy that I am interested in - WOULD i date me? 

NOW, if you know me well, you would know my answer...

BUT here are a few things that I thought about... what qualities do i possess, what value do i bring to my relationships? what are my shortcomings?  How secure am i?  I thought what a better way to find out then to ask my recent ex's...So I wanted to know what he would change about me? or what really bothered him about me when we were together?  AND What can i change to be a better girlfriend in my next relationship?  He thought for a second then he said- god there's a list and where do i begin : "when you get really excited, you shriek and it really bothers me.  And i also can't stand it when you talk in your sorority voice and lingo."  I  held my breadth as i wait for him to hit me with the brutal truth... ( like i hate your guts, maybe i make faces? ) and he said yeah thats its.  Really and THAT was it! that's all he had for me. So I called another one... for whatever reason we broke up, can you tell me what bothered you about me?  He said he needed to think about it and will call me back.  So he did and his answer was, "i couldn't stand your independence".  And that was it!! Really!!!!!  I am independent and apparently i make sorority shrieks when i get excited - if that is all that's against me then I am doing pretty well, huh?   

So heres my deal, I am pretty comfortable with myself, and as much as I used to joke about being "perfect" with my friends, I know i am not purrfect. Infact, i am aware that I have lots of room for improvement. But I sure do know how to make someone else feel good about themselves, and also put their best interest at heart, and the bigger scheme of life and relationships ... I know that it also involves more than just looking good, having fun, or just a great time in bed. AND its' all of that and more-  the right chemistry, and also the timing... and under the right circumstances, Yeah I would date myself with a little tweak here and there. 

BUT here is the question for you to ask yourself- ( now be open and honest ) WOULD YOU DATE YOU?

would you date him?

so let's just say i am dating " mr Gatsby "...  So far for the 1mth ish... he's been fun, exciting and wonderful but I still have my doubts and i need your advise???? my question for you is- WOULD U DATE HIM??

Heres's "mr gatsby" bio: He's chasing the American dream, works really really hard, travels for work 3 times out of a month and i see him only on the weekends. ( which i am totally OK with and in fact works best with my current schedule ) Mr Gatsby also treats me well when we are together, he is very accommodating, he listens, he calls me gorgeous, gives me kisses when i want it and most importantly we have unbelievable chemistry. WE can talk for hours about life, friends and anything silly... AND My friends adore him and thinks he's quality.  He's also handsome,successful and charismatic  and a really Good guy...  I like him. But what i like most about him is the way he makes me feel when i am with him... excited, happy and safe.

But here's the downfall of "mr gatsby", he's not very communicative during the work week. ( what that means is, i feel a disconnect when i don't hear from him ) Now lets just say we would make plans to get together on a friday, AND I would only hear from him the day of. Yeah i know hes busy, HELLO, we both are!! And he's telling me he's 100% committed to his job, but how hard is it to text or call to say hello during the 24 hours of a very long day... am i asking for too much? i personally don't think so. Having dated a myriad type of men, oober successful, emotional unavailable, marriage material... my thoughts are, its just not that hard to send a message saying hello unless you are playing games, or he's just not that into me.

Considering its still pretty young into the "relationship", these are important components of every relationship or friendships right?.?  I feel pretty good about him, and i enjoy our autonomy on all other departments, but there are always red flags to look out for right?  When it comes to what I need, i don't think i should compromise... Right now I want to protect me myself and i, and its important that I am not being careless about my feelings. i know his potential and being aware of his shortcomings of not communicating when i am not with him doesn't make it right. AND am i putting myself at risk by still continuing to see him? what do you think? would u date him?

 

being 25

On my 25th birthday, my dearest friends in Chicago put together a little list to make me feel special. Probably the most thought out gift for me in my life time... (thanks megan for initiating the gift) When I read the 25 reasons, I couldn't stop laughing cos the list was so accurate and right on. It's pretty funny. And now reading this list today, its still pretty comical and quite embarrassing.What was i thinking?    what would your 25 reasons look like?  Download 25_reasons_why_we_love_thuz.doc

what next?

friends want me to write about

1. drunk blogs
2. hook ups ( sorry to disappoint ya but there's not too many )
3. SEX
4. stupid things i DO
5. my jammers (thanks jon)

and I will

here's what you want to know

i am 26, i am almost always happy, i find joy in little things in life, i laugh alot and i like to make other people laugh, i think i am funny, i have a lot of energy, i am almost never upset, i have been in love and also had my heart broken, i love mornings, being in love makes me happy, i am very confident. I write the way i talk.  I draw hearts and smiley faces :) and those who don't know me often thinks i am on drugs ( nope just high on life). I do have an OFF button.  the best gifts given to me are the lessons that my friends taught me.  I have great friends that I am proud of, the ones who are not afraid to look me in the eye and tell me when i am wrong.  my favorite colors are RED and light green.

i love eggs, sausage and toast for breakfast and peanut butter sandwiches any time of the day.  I love to play my music really loud and music inspires me.  I believe great sex involves intense mental connection. I am afraid of the dark. I am comfortable in my own skin. I can't stay mad long. i am a Buddhist. I love running and tennis.  I enjoy a challenge. and what else...

its just the beginning

So last night I started thuzy.com.  I got home from work, was pretty bummed that I can't run again ( hips dysplasia ) And to cheer me up, my bestest roomie, little miss carly taught me how to create and start a blog- sort of like my new hobby. So I want to send a big fat thanks to miss carly white ( www.carlywhite.com)

And I need your help to make this fun for you!! Do tell me - what do you want to know about me? ...

PS: the whole point was so when I sent you the email on www.thuzy.com, you comment on what you want to know...  Play along now, don't be comment shy - what could possibly hurt you?